It’s funny how things happen and events that make you believe in destiny or fate. It’s like that phone call you see in the movies where a boy receives a call from his girlfriend and he’s all happy until he hears her having sex on the line with some random.. and you think yeah right that would never happen. Well it does. Not exactly like that.. but a girlfriend of mine lets call her Carmen receives a picture message from her boyfriend after spending a great few days together of fun, frivolity and good times. Low and behold it’s a photo message of private conversations she’s had with me about personal things that she obviously did not share with him. The guy had gone on her Facebook while she had gone to work and left her laptop at his place and guessing her password went through her Facebook and took photos of her conversations as evidence to hang onto. As any women who has close girlfriend will attest to there are just some skeletons in your closet that you just do NOT want to share; men you wished you’d never kissed, about their boyfriends performance in bed, honest opinions about their boyfriends friends. MORTIFYING ABSOLUTELY MORTIFYING if read by the wrong person.
Well she got busted.. and now it’s over. But not finished by him but by her, the girl’s allowed to have her private opinions and she told me she could never look at him the same way again. The thought of him going behind her back when the relationship had no problems, no lipstick on the collar for him to have motives to snoop. Carmen had been upset all week because he might be moving away for his job soon and she couldn’t go with him because of her work – nothing that should be bringing up any red flags in his mind. Even though they had trust issues from the past on both sides, a new leaf had been turned and they were planning to be together, forever even. He promised her the world, promised he would fight for her, promised he would treat her how she deserved and better… Yeah haven’t we all heard that before.
So back to the idea of fate.. if he had never accidentally sent that picture from his phone she would have never known until he sprung it on her obviously waiting for an opportune moment (like that exists). He had acted perfectly normal with her after he snooped, loving, caring, trying to make her smile and have a good time when she started feeling low about the idea of him leaving. Up until she saw the message and called confronting him he had acted like the perfect gentleman. But did he apologise about invading her privacy? Did he seem ashamed at his behaviour? Did he realise the error of his psycho ways? No… he then admitted to also going through her phone and then tried to justify himself by NOT explaining why he did it (oh no wait.. he said it was because she was acting “weird” – not good enough I say) but by trying to throw back in her face what he had read. Well buddy if you go looking you will find and once you open Pandora’s box your screwed as the saying goes. I feel sorry for her she really loved this guy, a girl can’t be held accountable for what she reveals in the sanctuary of girl talk and now the relationship is ruined and for what really?? A stolen kiss before they were together with some guy he hates, a 5 minute phone call with an ex lover she forgot to tell him about and random girl talk about sex (and quite complimentary too might I add) amongst other things.
It’s funny how things work out… but in a not funny at all kind of way. He hasn’t contacted her since the discovery hopefully wallowing in shame at his psycho-ness and hopefully feeling regretful for the beautiful relationship he destroyed. One can only hope.
I’ve only got one song to put on my Mix CD today that sums this all up and it’s so exclusive you can only find it on Itunes not on YouTube yet or unless you have their EP…
- Like a Weight – The Jungle Drums